|Wise Words & Power Words|
WISE WORDS FOR PARENTS AND CARE GIVERS…& NEW CONCEPTS FOR OUR CHILDREN
It is so easy to say what we DON’T want from our young kids (2-6y), but here are some qualities we DO want to encourage.
Parent: “Wow, look at you! That is what I call…..
Kind, kindness (sharing, giving)
Helping (helping put away the toys and putting dishes in the dishwasher)
Considerate, thinking of others (baby dropped his toy / dummy, and you gave it back)
Control (you are mad & angry, but you stayed calm and called for assistance)
Perseverence & Diligence (its so difficult, but you keep trying and working at it!)
Speaking (you are using words to tell me what is wrong, and what you want)
Love (hugging & kissing siblings, stroking & petting the animals)
Good Thinking (you saw the gate was open and closed it before baby climbed the stairs)
Comply (I asked you to wash your hands before dinner and you complied (obeyed))
Thoughtful (You, like Dora, said to yourself, let’s “stop & think” and you had a good idea, fixed the problem, found the book,)
Thankful (you said “thanks for dinner” or “thanks for my new shirt” “thanks for getting that for me”)
Patience (you waited a long time in line for that ice-cream / a turn on the swing without complaining)
Some Power Words for KidsHelp kids express their feelings by teaching them these important POWER words (and explain that its okay to FEEL these feelings / emotions, but not okay to act out on them aggressively). And, most important, as parent, to ACKNOWLEDGE these feelings…and talk about them!
Parent: “Oh, boy! You are so…
Angry / Mad (at me because I said NO! … at your sister for ruining your favourite picture / toy, at your friend for hurting you)
Disappointed (that we have to leave the party, that you can’t ride your bike yet,)
Frustrated (can’t find something you really want, can’t have what you want, )
Jealous (s/he has something you want, you want more of xxx,)
Unfair (you don’t feel that you were treated equally and it makes you upset…)
Bad feelings have to come out, before the good feelings can take their place. Help kids get the words out, because soon after, the bad feelings usually accompany them: on the condition that those “feelings” are properly acknowledged.
Parent: “Hmmm, yes, I can see that’ or “Hmm, you are sooooo upset.” “Hmm, its so difficult….”
All the best!